بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم
In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful
First Step Towards Perfect Islaam - Part-2
Alphabetical Extracts of Dos and Don'ts from the Quraan
by Irshad Mahmood - PRESIDENT
Siraat-al-Mustaqeem Dawah Centre
Dawah: Preach / Debate: Muslim Always do Preach:
Ye are the best of peoples, evolved for mankind, enjoining (order) what is right, forbidding what is wrong, and believing in Allah. If only the People of the Book had faith, it was best for them: among them are some who have faith, but most of them are perverted transgressors. (Al_Quraan_003. 110)
(To order, you need to be in Ministries, parliaments, courts, polices, defense systems and other law and order enforcement agencies. If you don’t fulfill your duties, then misleading people will destroy the whole system)
O ye who believe! Save yourselves and your families from a Fire whose fuel is Men and Stones, over which are (appointed) angels stern (and) severe, who flinch not (from executing) the Commands they receive from Allah, but do (precisely) what they are commanded. (Al_Quraan_066. 006)
So verily thou canst not make the dead to hear, nor canst thou make the deaf to hear the call, when they show their backs and turn away. Nor canst thou lead back the blind from their straying: only those wilt thou make to hear, who believe in Our Signs and submit (their wills in Islaam). (Al_Quraan_030. 052 – 053)
What! do you enjoin men to be good and neglect your own souls while you read the Book; have you then no sense? (Al_Quraan_002. 044)
The example of those who were given the Torah, then failed to observe (practice) it, is like the donkey (ass) carrying great works of literature. Miserable indeed is the example of people who rejected GOD's revelations. GOD does not guide the wicked people. (Al_Quraan_062. 005)
INVITE to the Way of your Lord (i.e. Islam) with WISDOM and fair preaching, and argue (Debate) with them in a way that is better. Truly, your Lord knows best who has gone astray from His Path, and He is the Best Aware of those who are guided."(Al-Quraan_016. 125)
O Messenger! deliver what bas been revealed to you from your Lord (as is); and if you do it not, then you have not delivered His message, and Allah will protect you from the people; surely Allah will not guide the unbelieving people. (Al_Quraan_005. 067)
And do not argue (dispute) with the followers of the Book except by what is best, except those of them who act unjustly, and say: We believe in that which has been revealed to us and revealed to you, and our Allah and your Allah is One, and to Him do we submit. (Al_Quraan_029. 046)
O you who believe! why do you say that which you do not do? (Al_Quraan_061. 002)
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Day of Judgment: Muslim is Always Ready for the Day of Judgment:
Are they waiting until the Hour (Day of Judgment) comes to them suddenly? All the signs thereof have already come. Once the Hour comes to them, how will they benefit from their message? (Al_Quraan_047. 018)
When the sun is overthrown, And when the stars fall, And when the hills are moved, And when the camels big with young are abandoned, And when the wild beasts are herded together, And when the seas rise, And when souls are reunited, And when the girl-child that was buried alive is asked For what sin she was slain, And when the pages are laid open, And when the sky is torn away, And when hell is lighted, And when the Garden is brought nigh, (Then) every soul will know what it hath made ready. (Al_Quraan_081. 001-014)
And when Our clear revelations are recited unto them their only argument is that they say: Bring (back) our fathers. Then, if ye are truthful. Say (unto them, O Muhammad): Allah giveth life to you, then causeth you to die, then gathereth you unto the Day of Resurrection whereof there is no doubt. But most of mankind knows not. And unto Allah belongeth the Sovereignty of the heavens and the earth; and on the day when the Hour riseth, on that day those who follow falsehood will be lost. And thou wilt see each nation crouching, each nation summoned to its record. (And it will be said unto them): This day ye are requited what ye used to do. This Our Book pronounceth against you with truth. Lo! We have caused (all) that ye did to be recorded. (Al_Quraan_045. 025-029)
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Death:
Every soul will (must) taste of death, then to Us you will be brought back. (Al_Quraan_029. 057)
Thus, you should not grieve (cry) over anything you miss, nor be proud of anything He has bestowed upon you. GOD does not love those who are boastful, proud. (Al_Quraan_057. 023)
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Death of Disbelievers:
Who is then more unjust than he who forges a lie against Allah or rejects His communications? (As for) those, their portion of the Book shall reach them, until when Our (Angelic) messengers come to them causing them to die, they shall say: Where is that which you used to call upon besides Allah? They would say: They are gone away from us; and they shall bear witness against themselves that they were unbelievers (Al_Quraan_007. 037)
And who is more unjust than he who forges a lie against Allah, or says: It has been revealed to me; while nothing has been revealed to him, and he who says: I can reveal the like of what Allah has revealed? and if you had seen when the unjust shall be in the agonies of death and the angels shall spread forth their hands: Give up your souls; (Al_Quraan_006. 093)
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Debt / Loan:
If the debtor is in a difficulty, grant him time Till it is easy for him to repay. But if you remit it by way of charity, that is best for you if you only knew. (Al_Quraan_002. 280)
Then give to the near of kin his due, and to the needy and the wayfarer; this is best for those who desire Allah's pleasure, and these it is who are successful. (Al_Quraan_030. 038)
O you who believe! when you deal with each other in contracting a debt for a fixed time, then write it down; and let a scribe write it down between you with fairness; and the scribe should not refuse to write as Allah has taught him, so he should write; and let him who owes the debt dictate, and he should be careful of (his duty to) Allah, his Lord, and not diminish anything from it; but if he who owes the debt is unsound in understanding, or weak, or (if) he is not able to dictate himself, let his guardian dictate with fairness; and call in to witness from among your men two witnesses; but if there are not two men, then one man and two women from among those whom you choose to be witnesses, so that if one of the two errs, the second of the two may remind the other; and the witnesses should not refuse when they are summoned; and be not averse to writing it (whether it is) small or large, with the time of its falling due; this is more equitable in the sight of Allah and assures greater accuracy in testimony, and the nearest (way) that you may not entertain doubts (afterwards) , except when it is ready merchandise which you give and take among yourselves from hand to hand, then there is no blame on you in not writing it down; and have witnesses when you barter with one another, and let no harm be done to the scribe or to the witness; and if you do (it) then surely it will be a transgression in you, and be careful of (your duty) to Allah, Allah teaches you, and Allah knows all things. (Al_Quraan_002. 282)
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Deeds are NOT Transferable: Benefits or Punishments are NOT Transferable:
You will get reward of what you yourself used to do. (Al_Quraan_036. 054, 045.028)
Don’t get confused with following Ayaat. Here the Topic is Janaaza, the last honor.
And never offer prayer (Salaat-ul-Janaaza) for any one of them who dies and do not stand by his grave; surely they disbelieve in Allah and His Messenger (SAW) and they shall die in transgression. [Al_Quraan_009. 084]
It is not righteousness that you turn your faces towards the East and the West, BUT righteousness is this that one should believe in Allah and the last day and the angels and the Book and the prophets, and give away wealth out of love for Him to the near of kin and the orphans and the needy and the wayfarer and the beggars and for (the emancipation of) the captives, and keep up prayer and pay the poor-rate; and the performers of their promise when they make a promise, and the patient in distress and affliction and in time of conflicts-- these are they who are true (to themselves) and these are they who guard (against evil). (Al_Quraan_002. 177)
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Deeds or Beard: Ranks According to their Deeds Not Beard:
And all have degrees (or ranks) according to their deeds (what they do); and your Lord is not heedless of what they do. (Al_Quraan_006. 132)
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Defense / Jihaad / Holy War: Muslim Never Stops doing Jihaad:
There is NO Compulsion in Religion.... . (Al_Quraan_002: 256)
And if they incline to peace, then incline to it and trust in Allah; surely He is the Hearing, the Knowing. (Al_Quraan_008. 061)
If ye go not forth, He will punish you with a grievous penalty, and put others in your place. (Al_Quraan_009. 039)
Against them make ready your strength to the utmost of your power, including steeds of war, to strike terror into (the hearts of) the enemies, of Allah and your enemies, and others besides, whom ye may not know, but whom Allah doth know. Whatever ye shall spend in the cause of Allah shall be repaid unto you, and ye shall not be treated unjustly. (Al_Quraan_008. 060)
Allah forbids you not, with regard to those who fight you not for (your) Faith nor drive you out of your homes, from dealing kindly and justly with them: for Allah loveth those who are just. (Al_Quraan_060. 008)
When there comes the help of Allah and the victory, And you see men entering the religion of Allah in companies, Then celebrate the praise of your Lord, and ask His forgiveness; surely He is oft-returning (to mercy). (Al_Quraan_110. 001-003)
When angels take the souls of those who die in sin against their souls, they say: "In what (plight) were ye?" They reply: "Weak and oppressed were we in the earth." They say: "Was not the earth of Allah spacious enough for you to move yourselves away (From evil)?" Such men will find their abode in Hell, - What an evil refuge! - (Al_Quraan_004. 097)
And those who emigrated (leave their homes) for Allah's sake after they are oppressed, We will most certainly give them a good abode in the world, and the reward of the hereafter is certainly much greater, did they but know; Those who are patient and on their Lord do they trust. (Al_Quraan_016. 041-042)
O my bondmen who believe! Lo! My earth is spacious. Therefore serve Me only. How many are the creatures that carry not their own sustenance? (Al_Quraan_029. 056-060)
(If Kafir stops you from offering Prayers then migrate, Allah’s earth is spacious. Do not worry about sustenance (rizk). Now let us see how Muhammad (SAW) implemented this. As you know Muhammad (SAW) migrated from Makkah al-Mukarramah ( مكة المكرمة) to Madina and never ever think to return. This is the Great secret of migration, so Allah has given such a great reward by turning Makkah al-Mukarramah ( مكة المكرمة) into the center place for all Muslims. In brief, no fighting for the land)
And not alike are the good and the evil. Repel (evil) with what is best, when lo! he between whom and you was enmity would be as if he were a warm friend. And none are made to receive it but those who are patient, and none are made to receive it but those who have a mighty good fortune. And if an interference of the Shaitan should cause you mischief, seek refuge in Allah; surely He is the Hearing, the Knowing. (Al_Quraan_041. 034-036)
But why were there not among the generations before you those possessing understanding, who should have forbidden the making of mischief in the earth, except a few of those whom We delivered from among them? And those who were unjust went after what they are made to enjoy of plenty, and they were guilty. (Al_Quraan_011. 116)
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Deposits / Trust:
Surely Allah commands you that you restore deposits to their owners, and, if you judge between mankind, that you judge justly. Surely Allah admonishes you with what is excellent; surely Allah is Seeing, Hearing. (Al_Quraan_004. 058)
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Differences:
If you DIFFER in anything (Faith, Salaat, Sayaam, Zakaat, etc.) amongst yourself, then REFER to Allah and his Messenger, if you really believe in Allah and in the Last Day. That is better and more suitable for determinations. [Al_Quraan_004. 059]
O followers of the Book! come to an equitable proposition (common terms / logical agreement) between us and you that we shall not serve any but Allah and (that) we shall not associate aught with Him, and (that) some of us shall not take others for lords besides Allah; but if they turn back, then say: Bear witness that we are Muslims. (Al_Quraan_003. 064)
And obey Allah and His Messenger and do not quarrel (fall into no disputes) for then you will be weak in hearts and your power will depart, and be patient; surely Allah is with the patient. (Al_Quraan_008. 046)
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Disasters: a Test - or - Punishment:
Whenever We sent a Prophet (Informer / Warner) to a town, We took up its people in suffering and adversity, in order that they might learn humility. (Al_Quraan_007. 094)
Mischief (Disaster or Corruption) has appeared on land and sea because of (the evil) that the hands of men have earned, that (Allah) may give them a taste of some of their deeds: in order that they may turn back (from Evil) [Al_Quraan_030: 041]
As for those who disbelieve, disaster ceaseth not to strike them because of what they do, or it dwelleth near their home until the threat of Allah come to pass. [Al_Quraan_013. 031]
But why were there not among the generations before you those possessing understanding, who should have forbidden the making of mischief in the earth, except a few of those whom We delivered from among them? And those who were unjust went after what they are made to enjoy of plenty, and they were guilty. Your Lord never annihilates any community unjustly, while its people are righteous. (Al_Quraan_011. 116-117)
Allah Saved only those Who were doing Dawah:
But why were there not among the generations before you those possessing understanding, who should have forbidden the making of mischief in the earth, except a few of those whom (ONLY) We Saved ( from harm)? And those who were unjust went after what they are made to enjoy of plenty, and they were guilty. (Al_Quraan_011: 116)
It is NOT only Duty of Scholars to do Dawah (Tell the TRUTH about the Message of Allah), to save the whole world from Disasters. A single Scholar may not do door to door Dawah to tens of millions of people. It is DUTY on EVERY Single Muslims to do Dawah with Wisdom. As an example, I included at the end, "My Way of Dawah". Do some dialog and give them Quraan, if they are really interested and give the address of Scholars to contact for more clarifications.
In what Hadith (Quraan), then, after it, will they believe? (Al_Quraan_077. 050)
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Disobeying Husband: Muslim Woman Never Disobeys her Husband:
The righteous women are devoutly obedient, and guard in (the husband's) absence what Allah would have them guard. (Al_Quraan_004. 034)
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Dividing into Sects: Muslim never Divides into Sects:
O followers of the Book! come to an equitable proposition (common terms / logical agreement) between us and you that we shall not serve any but Allah and (that) we shall not associate aught with Him, and (that) some of us shall not take others for lords besides Allah; but if they turn back, then say: Bear witness that we are Muslims. (Al_Quraan_003. 064)
As for those who divide their religion and break up into sects, thou hast no part in them in the least: their affair is with Allah: He will in the end tell them the truth of all that they did. (Al_Quraan_006. 159)
(All) people are a single nation; so Allah raised prophets as bearers of good news and as warners, and He revealed with them the Book with truth, that it might judge between people in that in which they differed; and none but the people of the book who were given it differed about it after clear arguments had come to them, revolting among themselves; so Allah has guided by His will those who believe to the truth about which they differed and Allah guides whom He pleases to the right path. (Al_Quraan_002. 213)
And obey Allah and His Messenger and do not quarrel (fall into no disputes) for then you will be weak in hearts and your power will depart, and be patient; surely Allah is with the patient. (Al_Quraan_008. 046)
If you DIFFER (Faith, Salaat, Sayaam, Zakaat, etc.) in anything amongst yourself, then REFER to Allah and his Messenger, if you really believe in Allah and in the Last Day. That is better and more suitable for determinations. [Al_Quraan_004. 059]
And strive for Allah with the endeavor, which is His (Allah’s) right. He (Allah) has chosen you and has imposed no difficulties (hardship) on you in religion. It is the faith of your father Abraham (PBUH) (is yours). It is He (Allah) Who named you Muslims, both before and in this (Scripture), that the Messenger may be witness against you, and that you may be witness against mankind. So establish regular Prayer (Worship), pay the poor due (Charity), and hold fast to Allah. He (Allah) is your Protecting Friend. A blessed Patron and a blessed Helper. [Al_Quraan_022. 078]
(Don’t Call yourself Shiaa, Sunnee, Berelvee, Deubandee, Ahle-Hadees etc, Just call yourself Muslims, since Allah named you as Muslims)
O you who believe! be careful of (your duty to) Allah with the care which is due to Him, and do not die unless you are Muslims. And hold fast by the covenant of Allah all together and be not disunited, and remember the favor of Allah on you when you were enemies, then He united your hearts so by His favor you became brethren; and you were on the brink of a pit of fire, then He saved you from it, thus does Allah make clear to you His communications that you may follow the right way. (Al_Quraan_003. 102-103)
And be not like those who became divided and disagreed after clear arguments had come to them, and these it is that shall have a grievous chastisement. (Al_Quraan_003. 105)
None can dispute about the Signs of Allah but the Unbelievers. Let not, then, strutting about through the land deceive thee! (Al_Quraan_040. 004)
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Divorce / Separation: How to do Divorce:
How to Avoid Divorce: Keep giving positive smile and true love to your spouse. After all, your spouse is a human being and may do mistakes, so keep forgiving him.
The righteous women are devoutly obedient, and guard in (the husband's) absence what Allah would have them guard. (Al_Quraan_004. 034)
Forgiveness is the key element to avoid Divorce and Allah loves it.
Anger is the Root of all Major Problems including Divorce:
… But consort with them in kindness, for if ye hate them it may happen that ye hate a thing wherein Allah hath placed much good. (Al_Quraan_004. 019).
Because of Anger a person may get stroke, heart attack, blood pressure, diabetes and many other dangerous diseases. So do you want to take any of those diseases because of the anger or do you want to give any of those diseases to your spouse because of the anger? Remember if any of you gets a single disease like that the whole family suffers and the kids suffer the most.
Also a person may do many crimes in anger, like unjust and divorce. So, would you like to get the divorce due to that anger and make your children suffer or other unjust? Remember unjust is very dangerous. Since Allah already warned that any one who do unjust he is a Disbeliever (Ref: Al_Quraan_005. 044).
A wife may be in the state of CURSE BY ANGELS till her husband comes out of his anger. Also during in the state of anger all their worships might not be accepted.
… Cause him to sleep in ANGER; the angels will curse her till morning (Bukhari Vol-4, Book-54, Hadith-460).
There may be some women and children who are men’s enemy, BUT women and children must AVOID to be in that group, since those may go to HELL for ever and ever only because of that silly act.
O ye who believe! Lo! Among your wives and your children there are enemies for you, therefore beware of them. And if ye efface and overlook and forgive, then lo! Allah is Forgiving, Merciful. (Al_Quraan_064. 014)
Spouses must have love and mercy among them. Anger is not a love and mercy or rest.
And of his signs is this: He created for you helpmeets from yourselves that ye might find rest in them, and He ordained between you love and mercy. Lo, herein indeed are portents for folk who reflect. (Al_Quraan_030. 021)
Possible Solutions to Anger:
Seek refuge in Allah, ask Allah for forgiveness and forgive and hug your spouse with love. It is human nature to become angry BUT don’t be angry from your spouse for more than 3 minutes, think positive and remember his kindness to help to forget the anger. Give SMILE and HUG with love and say sorry as well. May Allah protect all us from ANGER. AMEEN.
Women may take Separation: Women are not Slave:
And if a woman fears ill usage or desertion on the part of her husband, there is no blame on them, if they effect a reconciliation between them, and reconciliation is better, and avarice has been made to be present in the (people's) minds; and if you do good (to others) and guard (against evil), then surely Allah is aware of what you do. (Al_Quraan_004. 128)
You are only allowed to Divorce, if she does not obey you according to Islaamic Laws. Also you are not allowed to keep her forcefully, if she does not want to live with you.
Step 1: First try to resolve verbally with talks and warn your wife.
Step 2: If still your wife does not obey you under Islaamic Laws then leave them alone in their bedroom and don’t share the bed for some periods.
Step 3: Final step is to beat them lightly, till she starts obeying you or you decided to do Divorce. Like, if a kid is doing wrong, you slap him, in such a way that he don’t do it again. Not on the face and don’t even try to break the bone, just for lesson.
Step 4: If still problem is not resolved, then you give First Divorce (Tillaaq) and declare it to close relatives of both sides.
Step 5: Keep your wife in your home, till she fulfills her term (Iddat). During this time you have right to forgive her and starts sharing bed. This will be First Divorce.
Step 6: If still the problem is not resolved then, you need to repeat Step1 through Step 5. Second or Third Time.
After Third time Divorce she will not be Halaal for you at all.
Divorce by Cooling off:
If one is silently separated even inside his home and not reconciling with his wife for four months, and his intention is to divorce on this separation, then it will count as one divorce. That is one of the main reason why many scholars do not recommend on working out of station and living there for more than three months without any valid reason. So try to find the work where you live with your family or at lease you can visit them within three months.
Those who intend to divorce their wives shall wait four months (cooling off); if they change their minds and reconcile, then GOD is Forgiver, Merciful. (Al_Quraan_002. 226)
Men protectors and maintainers of Women:
Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has given the one more (strength) than the other, and because they support them from their means. Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient, and guard in (the husband’s) absence what Allah would have them guarded. As to those women on whose part ye fear disloyalty and ill conduct, admonish them (first), (next) refuse to share their beds, (and last) beat them (lightly). But if they return to obedience, seek not against them means (of annoyance). For Allah is Most High, Great (above you all). (Al_Quraan_004. 034)
Responsibilities for close Relatives & Friends:
If you feel that there is some problem going on with husband and wife then, at least one person from husband side and one person from wife side should sit together and try to resolve all the issues.
And if ye fear a breech between them twain (the man and wife), appoint an arbiter from his folk and an arbiter from her folk. If they desire amendment Allah will make them of one mind. Lo! Allah is ever Knower, Aware. (Al_Quraan_004. 035)
Halaala: No Marriage is Marriage if it is temporary for fixed period of time.
In Islaam, marriage is a blessed permanent contract between a man and a woman for the whole life, in which each becomes “permitted” to the other, and they begin the long journey of life in a spirit of love, cooperation, harmony and tolerance, where each feels at ease with the other, and finds tranquility, contentment and comfort in the company of the other. The Quraan has described this relationship between men and women, which brings love, harmony, trust and compassion, in the most moving and eloquent terms:
Since Halaala is a Marriage for fixed period of time, ranging from few minutes to several years, so it is invalid and it is like Rape (Zina). Marriages are with Love, while Divorces are with Hate. No sincere husband can divorce her loving wife with love.
Sincere Advise to Sisters:
Be careful with the man made rules of Halaala (Temporary Marriage) and protect every sister from getting raped by this man made rules.
Waiting: Waiting Period for Women after Divorce or Death of a Husband.
Why Iddat (waiting period)?
And the divorced women should keep themselves in waiting for three courses; and it is not lawful for them that they should conceal what Allah has created in their wombs, if they believe in Allah and the last day; and their husbands have a better right to take them back in the meanwhile if they wish for reconciliation; and they have rights similar to those against them in a just manner, and the men are a degree above them, and Allah is Mighty, Wise. (Al_Quraan_002. 228)
From the above Ayah, it very clear that the main perpose of the Iddat is to wait and see if she is pregnent or not. Waiting Period (Iddat) is variable according to cases. Also it is advised that people shoud hold the division of the Inheritance in case, the wife of the deceased could be pregnant. In this way we also will come to know if she delivers the boy/s or girl/s.
The Only Reason for Waiting Period & NOT the House Arrest:
Divorced Women or Widows might need to go for work otherwise they might loose their jobs or they might need to pick and drop their little kids from school, or they might need to fulfill other lawful duties. The main reason for waiting period is to show off what if they might have concealed and NOT the House Arrest. They already are in Great Loss and Suffering. Please do NOT torture them any more by putting them in House Arrest.
O you who believe! when you marry the believing women, then divorce them before you touch them, you have in their case NO TERM which you should reckon; so make some provision for them and send them forth a goodly sending forth. (Al_Quraan_033. 049)
And divorced women should keep themselves in waiting for three menstruations; and it is not lawful for them that they should CONCEAL what Allah has created in their wombs, if they believe in Allah and the last day; and their husbands have a better right to take them back in the meanwhile if they wish for reconciliation; and they have rights similar to those against them in a just manner, and the men are a degree above them, and Allah is Mighty, Wise. (Al_Quraan_002. 228)
As for the women who have reached menopause, if you have any doubts, their interim shall be three months. As for those who do not menstruate, and discover that they are PREGNANT, their interim ends upon giving birth. Anyone who reverences GOD, He makes everything easy for him. (Al_Quraan_065. 004)
After Divorce:
And divorced women should keep themselves in waiting for THREE menstruations; and it is not lawful for them that they should conceal what Allah has created in their wombs, if they believe in Allah and the last day; and their husbands have a better right to take them back in the meanwhile if they wish for reconciliation; and they have rights similar to those against them in a just manner, and the men are a degree above them, and Allah is Mighty, Wise. (Al_Quraan_002. 228)
Divorce is up to Two times:
Divorce may be (pronounced) TWICE, then keep (them) in good fellowship or let (them) go with kindness; and it is not lawful for you to take any part of what you have given them, unless both fear that they cannot keep within the limits of Allah; then if you fear that they cannot keep within the limits of Allah, there is no blame on them for what she gives up to become free thereby. These are the limits of Allah, so do not exceed them and whoever exceeds the limits of Allah these it is that are the unjust. (Al_Quraan_002. 229)
And when you divorce women (up to two times) and they reach their prescribed time, then either retain them in good fellowship or set them free with liberality, and do not retain them for injury, so that you exceed the limits, and whoever does this, he indeed is unjust to his own soul; and do not take Allah's communications for a mockery, and remember the favor of Allah upon you, and that which He has revealed to you of the Book and the Wisdom, admonishing you thereby; and be careful (of your duty to) Allah, and know that Allah is the Knower of all things. (Al_Quraan_002. 031)
NOT Lawful After Third Time Divorce:
So if he divorces her (for the THIRD time), she shall not be lawful to him afterwards until she marries (Permanently) another husband; then if he divorces her there is no blame on them both if they return to each other (by marriage), if they think that they can keep within the limits of Allah, and these are the limits of Allah which He makes clear for a people who know. (Al_Quraan_002. 030)
And when you have divorced women and they have ended-- their term (of waiting), then do not prevent them from marrying their husbands when they agree among themselves in a lawful manner; with this is admonished he among you who believes in Allah and the last day, this is more profitable and purer for you; and Allah knows while you do not know. (Al_Quraan_002. 032)
And the mothers should suckle their children for two whole years for him who desires to make complete the time of suckling; and their maintenance and their clothing must be-- borne by the father according to usage; no soul shall have imposed upon it a duty but to the extent of its capacity; neither shall a mother be made to suffer harm on account of her child, nor a father on account of his child, and a similar duty (devolves) on the (father's) heir, but if both desire weaning by mutual consent and counsel, there is no blame on them, and if you wish to engage a wet-nurse for your children, there is no blame on you so long as you pay what you promised for according to usage; and be careful of (your duty to) Allah and know that Allah sees what you do. (Al_Quraan_002. 033)
Why Iddat (waiting period)?
And the divorced women should keep themselves in waiting for three courses; and it is not lawful for them that they should conceal what Allah has created in their wombs, if they believe in Allah and the last day; and their husbands have a better right to take them back in the meanwhile if they wish for reconciliation; and they have rights similar to those against them in a just manner, and the men are a degree above them, and Allah is Mighty, Wise. (Al_Quraan_002. 228)
From the above Ayah, it very clear that the main perpose of the Iddat is to wait and see if she is pregnent or not. Waiting Period (Iddat) is variable according to cases. Also it is advised that people shoud hold the division of the Inheritance in case, the wife of the deceased could be pregnant. In this way we also will come to know if she delivers the boy/s or girl/s.
Waiting Period for Woman whose Husband had Died:
And (as for) those of you who die and leave wives behind, they should keep themselves in waiting for FOUR months and TEN days; then when they have fully attained their term, there is no blame on you for what they do for themselves in a lawful manner; and Allah is aware of what you do. (Al_Quraan_002. 033)
And those of you who die and leave wives behind, (make) a bequest in favor of their wives of maintenance for a year without turning (them) out, then if they themselves go away, there is no blame on you for what they do of lawful deeds by themselves, and Allah is Mighty, Wise. (Al_Quraan_002. 040)
Waiting Period for Un-Touched Women:
O you who believe! when you marry the believing women, then divorce them before you touch them, you have in their case NO TERM which you should reckon; so make some provision for them and send them forth a goodly sending forth. (Al_Quraan_033. 049)
Waiting Period for Other Women:
As for the women who have reached menopause, if you have any doubts, their interim shall be THREE months. As for those who do not menstruate, and discover that they are PREGNANT, their interim ends upon giving birth. Anyone who reverences GOD, He makes everything easy for him. (Al_Quraan_065. 004)
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Dower: Muslim Man Always tries to Pay Dower to his Wife:
And give the women (on marriage) their dower as a free gift; but if they, of their own good pleasure, remit any part of it to you, Take it and enjoy it with right good cheer. (Al_Quraan_004. 004)
O ye who believe! It is not lawful for you forcibly to inherit the women (of your deceased kinsmen), nor (that) ye should put constraint upon them that ye may take away a part of that which ye have given them, unless they are guilty of flagrant lewdness. But consort with them in kindness, for if ye hate them it may happen that ye hate a thing wherein Allah hath placed much good. (Al_Quraan_004. 019)
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Drinking: Alcohol: Muslim Never Drinks Intoxicants (Alcohol):
O ye who believe! Intoxicants (Alcohol) and gambling, (dedication of) stones, and (divination by) arrows, are an abomination, - of Satan's handwork: eschew such (abomination) that ye may prosper. (Al_Quraan_005. 090)
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Duaa (Pray): Muslim Only asks Help from Allah:
And your Lord says: "Call on Me; I will answer your (Prayers). (Al_Quraan_040. 060)
(Ask directly from Allah for all help. No need to do shirk. Only Ya Allah Help)
After all we are human being and may be wrong on some point, so we need to make a very special Duaa:
O Allah! Guide us and help us. If I am wrong, O Allah! Correct me. If others are wrong, O Allah correct them. If we all are wrong, O Allah correct all of us. AMEEN.
”Rabbi Zidnee Aailmaa”. (O my Lord! Increase me in knowledge). Ref: Al_Quraan_020. 114 AMEEN.
”Rabbishrah Lee Sadree Wayassir Lee Amree Wahlul AAuqdatan Min Lisanee Yafqahoo Qawlee”. (O my Lord! expand my breast; And ease my task for me; And loose the knot from my tongue; So they may understand what I say). Ref: Al_Quraan_020. 025 – 028) AMEEN.
”Rabbana Hab Lana Min Azwajina Wathurriyyatina Qurrata aAAyunin WajjAAalna Lilmuttaqeena imamaan”. (O our Lord! grant us in our wives and our offspring the joy of our eyes, and give us (the grace) to lead the righteous). Ref: Al_Quraan_025. 074. AMEEN.
موضوع: 1First Step Towards Perfect Islaam 
الجمعة أغسطس 20, 2010 7:38 am
